Motherhood is a lot of things. I can think of so many adjectives to describe what a I think life is life as a mama.
Wonderful, Over-whelming, Sweet, Hard, Happy, Challenging, Joyful, Rocky, My Dream, Tiring, A Gift, Messy, Fulfilling, Exhausting.
The List Could Go On & On. On one hand, motherhood is incredible. On the other hand its also a challenge. You know this.
But to call motherhood a mission is a bold statement. One that I really didn’t understand the FULLNESS of until I recently read this three part series on mamahood.
In this season of my life, right now, its exactly what I needed to hear. To read. I printed it out, began dissecting her words, and challenging myself to absorb this concept.
My mission field is motherhood.
What does this mean? What does it look like? How do I apply it to my life?
Lets set the stage.
“Everyone wants to save the world, but no one wants to help Mom with the dishes”.
Does this ring a bell? Either as a mama or as a child who has been in the above mindset.
I can tell you, I have been there.
And, I find myself there again. This time on the other side of the fence, not as a child, but as a mama.
The fascination and intrigue we feel towards others lives around us can cause are hearts to wander. Wander into thinking that our life might possibly be “greener” on their side of the fence, dreaming of something that shouldn’t be, and becoming discontent in our own lives and there mundane day-to day activities. The longing we feel towards wanting to be MORE, and not feeling value in our season of life, where we are today.
Have you been there?
“Even if you have a great perspective on your role in the kingdom, it is easy to lose sight of it in the mismatched socks, in the morning sickness, in the dirty dishes. It is easy to confuse intrigue with value, and begin viewing yourself as the least valuable part of the church”.
Its so easy. I love how she said that. It’s so hard to remember that I still have value, a role, a place, a purpose, a calling here-at home.
“Giving up what you cannot keep does not mean giving up your home, or your job so you can go serve somewhere else. It is giving up yourself. Lay yourself down. Sacrifice yourself here, now. Cheerfully wipe the nose for the fiftieth time today. Make dinner again for the people who don’t like the green beans. Laugh when your plans are thwarted by a vomiting child. Lay yourself down for the people here with you, the people who annoy you, the people who get in your way, the people who take up so much of your time that you can’t read anymore. Rejoice in them. Sacrifice for them. Gain that which you cannot lose in them.”
Giving up for others not just out of duty, but with a cheerful heart. The Bible uses the word “cheerful” six times. Five times in the Old Testament. Once in the New Testament. Five times in Proverbs. In reference to being “cheerful” through my words, my face (my demeanor), in my heart, and in the New Testament in reference to giving.
I think at the core of being content in our mission field we also need to understand how to be cheerful in our calling. How can I minster, love on, encourage, bring peace, offer words, give affection, and advice to others if its not with a cheerful spirit? I think we can all sense when someone is doing something out of obligation rather than sincerity.
Not only do I want to give of myself to my family, I also LONG to do it with Joy. As 2 Cor. 9:7 calls us to, I want to not only give of my finances cheerfully, but also of my TIME.
I am challenged to live this.
And to close, I think this might resonate with more than just me.
“You cannot have a heart for the gospel and a fussiness about your life at the same time. You will never make any difference there if you cannot be at peace here.”
I am wresting with this, I am sooo beyond challenged by this perspective and I hope we can encourage one another. Whether you are realizing your calling and mission field is motherhood or something else, may we as Hebrews 10:24 says, “consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds”…
(All Quotes have been taken from Rachel Jankovic in her article “Motherhood is a Mission Field”.)